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According to the Office of National Statistics, in the year ending March 2018, an estimated 2.0 million adults aged 16 to 59 years experienced domestic abuse in the last year. For more information and how to find help please access the links below. Don't become another number...

National Domestic Violence Freephone Helpline

0808 2000 247

 

It is open 24 hours a day. It is run in partnership between Women’s Aid and Refuge.

Please call 999 in an emergency

  • Anyone can call the helpline: Women and children experiencing or who have experienced domestic abuse, professionals, or friends and family members who are worried about someone else.

  • Your call will be answered by fully trained female helpline support workers and volunteers. The helpline workers are skilled in listening and do not judge.

  • The helpline workers will never tell you what to do, but instead will explore your options with you.

  • Everything you say will be confidential.

  • All calls to the helpline are free from mobiles and landlines.

  • Be sure that you are safe when you call the helpline. This means that the perpetrator of the abuse is not in the same property as you (even if they are in another room, the garden or asleep).

Are you in an abusive relationship?

Questions to help you discover if you are experiencing domestic abuse:

  1. Are you afraid of your partner?

  2. Do you feel isolated, bullied or belittled?

  3. Does your partner cut you off from friends or family?

  4. Does your partner verbally abuse you?

  5. Does your partner physically hurt you?

  6. Do you feel as if you are walking on egg shells?

  7. Do you change your behaviour to avoid triggering an incident?

  8. Does your partner threaten you or your children?

  9. Does your partner control the money?

  10. Does your partner force you to have sex or make unreasonable demands?

  11. Does your partner accuse you of being unfaithful?

  12. Does your partner say you are useless and couldn’t cope without them?

  13. Does your partner have sudden changes of mood which dominate the house?

  14. Is your partner charming one minute and abusive the next?

  15. Are you afraid of making your own decisions?

If you have answered yes to one or more of these questions you may be experiencing domestic abuse

 

Please talk to someone you trust about it, a friend, your health visitor, your GP or call your local Domestic Abuse Helpline. It is important for you to know that:

  • people will believe you

  • you are not alone

  • it is not your fault

  • you have the right to feel safe and live free of abuse

IF YOU ARE IN AN ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIP AND ARE IN IMMINENT DANGER, DO NOT HESTIATE TO CALL THE POLICE ON 999. 

Know somebody in an abusive relationship? 

 

The nature of domestic abuse often means that the abuse happens in secret and may escalate over time. If possible try to support them to seek help early before the risk of harm increases for them and any children.

  • You may have identified the abuse before the person has, therefore, it is important to gently help them to recognise it. But this may take some time, the person may minimise or take responsibility for the abuse

  • Allow them to go at their pace, do not push them to make changes/decisions they are not ready for

  • Reassure them that they are not to blame for the abuse

  • Listen, and keep listening

  • Remain non-judgemental and do not criticise their partner

  • Do not advise them to leave, as this may increase the danger

  • Once they have recognised the abuse encourage them to seek specialist help and support

I haven’t been hit – can I still go to the police?

Yes, domestic abuse is not just physical – there is often a pattern of controlling, coercive behaviour too. There is now new legislation under the amended Serious Crime Act 2015 that allows police and criminal justice to prosecute perpetrators with an offence of coercive control, where there has been a pattern of behaviour that has had a significant impact on another person. This may be due to financial abuse, isolating them from sources of support, or a continuing act or a pattern of acts of assault, threats, humiliation and intimidation or other abuse that is used to harm, punish, or frighten.

 

Abuse can take a number of forms and if you are not comfortable to call the police then consider calling one of the many victim help line services across the UK who are experts in abuse and may be able to advise and guide.

 

 

I have a new partner and I want to know if he has abused in the past. Can I find out?

Clare’s law, or the domestic violence disclosure scheme, is a very useful tool. A request can be made to the police under the heading of ‘right to know’ or ‘right to ask’ where a person has concerns that a person is entering into, or has formed a relationship with a person they believe is a domestic perpetrator. Right to know will generally come from the police or partner agencies who may have access to intelligence or information, and the right to ask will generally come from the victim themselves or someone close to them, such as family or friend, acting in their best interest. Police will consider the application and make a decision whether it is proportionate to disclose information to the victim in order that they can then make an informed decision about how to protect themselves and their children if they have any.

I haven’t been hit – can I still go to the police?

Yes, domestic abuse is not just physical – there is often a pattern of controlling, coercive behaviour too. There is now new legislation under the amended Serious Crime Act 2015 that allows police and criminal justice to prosecute perpetrators with an offence of coercive control, where there has been a pattern of behaviour that has had a significant impact on another person. This may be due to financial abuse, isolating them from sources of support, or a continuing act or a pattern of acts of assault, threats, humiliation and intimidation or other abuse that is used to harm, punish, or frighten.

Abuse can take a number of forms and if you are not comfortable to call the police then consider calling one of the many victim help line services across the UK who are experts in abuse and may be able to advise and guide.

 

My partner forced me to have sex but we are married – is that domestic abuse?

Forcing someone to have sex is rape, whether you are married or not. Legally, a person under the age of 16 years old cannot give consent and if a person is under the influence of drugs, alcohol or has mental health issues, then there may be evidence that the person was unable to consent. If a person is threatening you or coercing you into sex, this is rape.

Rape reporting is increasing and is expected to increase for the foreseeable future. The police encourage reporting and will take all positive steps to investigate the complaint. Offences that have occurred within relationships are difficult to investigate and prosecute, as often the evidence is limited to one person’s word against the other. This however should not discourage any victim from coming forward.

 

 

What if I don’t want to involve the police?

The nature of domestic abuse often means that the abuse happens in secret and may escalate over time. There are many people that are hesitant to call the police, but the advice is always to call them, particularly in an emergency, if you feel unsafe, threatened or harassed. There are specialist domestic abuse police officers trained to support victims and to manage their safety and they will ensure that your safety is their priority. If at all possible, tell someone, and there will be services to help you wherever you live. Nationally, you can call the National Domestic Violence Helpline on 0808 2000 247.

 

 

 

I’m scared that if I report domestic abuse, my children will be taken away from me

This is a common threat used by perpetrators to make a parent feel fearful and to encourage them to remain within an abusive relationship. Social workers understand the challenges of leaving an abusive relationship and can support you throughout. It is very uncommon for children to be removed from a non-abusive parent and reporting domestic abuse does not always mean that social workers will automatically become involved.

Useful Links ... 

Womensaid

0808 2000 247

Refuge

0808 2000 247

Respect

0808 801 0327